Friday, April 8, 2016

Got Feelings?

Of course you do!  Are you able to identify, manage, recognize your feelings, as well as the feelings of others? And if you say yes, which I hope you do, are you teaching and modeling these skills for your children?  

Why is it important to know your feelings?  Because accurately identifying your feelings  allows you to better work through and manage them.  Self-awareness is a life skill that allows us to accurately asses our feelings, interests, and values; it leads to self-confidence.  That’s a very powerful attribute to pass on to your children. 

I frequently see kids who aren’t able to distinguish between sad and mad or those deep emotions like jealousy.  Big feelings are often channeled directly into what looks like anger.  Which, for the most part, does not provide understanding or control.  We all want control of ourselves (self-management).

When a child can identify their feelings they have the power to communicate that to their parents or teachers.  That allows the adult the opportunity to listen and explore the feelings and to help problem solve or just validate the feeling.   This builds understanding, compassion, perspective taking, and self-confidence.  We want our children to build a strong sense of self as well as a comprehensive understanding of others and how we fit in within the community of family, friends, and school.

Knowledge (self- awareness) = self-confidence

Help your child identify, understand, and manage their feelings. 
It is a very colorful and emotional world!

  • Self-management: The ability to regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations. This includes managing stress, controlling impulses, motivating oneself, and setting and working toward achieving personal and academic goals.